It’s all about perspective. How you go about your days; the views you have will determine the outcome of what happens throughout your life. We don’t get to decide most of what happens to us, but we do get to decide how we react. Being able to take a step back from a situation and think about how you want to view it, can be a step in the right direction. Especially if you’re working towards growing your life in a more positive manner. The thing is, “good'' and “bad” things happen to everyone, but how you decide to take action with what happens, is what will determine if you will have a more positive outcome or not.
With any situation, you can see it for how it is, then decide if you’re going to react positively or negatively. Maybe you ’ll take a step back after something happens and adjust your views. “Bad” things do happen, but we can still make good come from it. If you’re able to learn a lesson or understand something better from a negative circumstance, can you see how that would be actually beneficial? A lot of hardships allow us to grow. Struggles open up an opportunity to find ways to better ourselves.
Sometimes our struggles aren’t but 5 minutes of our day. But we tend to make them last all day long. A situation might have happened that really bummed you out or maybe there is something that happened and let you down. Many of us will then linger onto whatever happened and can carry this negative feeling for the rest of our day. It can be harmful to get too caught up in a poor situation, because then you may tend to close yourself off and prevent yourself from feeling better. This doesn’t mean that we have to be positive about every single thing that happens in our life. Life is hard, and it's okay to have hard times and to be upset. All I am saying is that the more you work on seeing the good things in your life, the more you open yourself up to joy in your life. Being grateful is a great way to help your perspective.
Gratitude: “the quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness” - what we give to the world is what we get. Being thankful is a great way to adjust your focus. Instead of dwelling on those things, you can focus on what you do have now. You can use the things you want (but don’t have, yet) as a way to motivate yourself. But realize there is time to attain goals and wants, so you might as well use that energy in a positive manner. As you start to be thankful for what you do have, you will see that list grow. As you continue to be grateful, you open yourself up to more good things to come into your life. Be grateful in the present. The things you have are still important and your work done should make you proud.