In all my years as a coach/therapist/athlete, I've come to realize that the majority of the challenges people face can be boiled down to just a few basic things.
One of those is the stories you've been telling yourself about who you are, where you came from, why you're here, and how you're 'supposed' to engage with life and those around you. These stories shape the thoughts you have and the meaning you give to the events in your life which influence the emotions you experience and the actions you take.
Fortunately and unfortunately, almost all of those stories you're living out are not your own -- they've been handed to you by your parents, teachers, churches, political leaders/influencers, and society as a whole.
Meditate on that for a moment:
The way in which you've been living your life is based on stories/beliefs that are not your own.
This begs the question, "Whose life have I been living?"
The good news is that even though you may not have consciously chosen these stories, you can consciously choose to change them any time you want.
And so all of the challenges you've been facing in the many different areas of your life (physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, relationships, financial, business, etc.) can be traced back to certain thought patterns that stem from certain beliefs/stories that shape the way you perceive and experience events in your life.
One of the simplest examples of this is to watch how you feel and what thoughts arise when you spend money.
Do you feel constricted and find yourself cycling through thoughts of scarcity and lack?
Or do you feel open and flowing and grateful for the abundance of life?
What stories are behind that?
Hint: both versions are equally right and true to the extent that you believe that they are.
My job as a coach/therapist isn't to tell you how to live your life; but only to act as a mirror to show you if what you say you want for yourself is aligned with the beliefs that you're choosing to subscribe to. The gap in between those stories and what you say you want is what Rudolf Steiner calls your "Story Gap." Within this gap is the misalignment that invites the Pain Teacher.
If you want to take a deeper dive on this topic, check out the recent video I made here.