Who Wins When You Fight Yourself?

Just in case you forgot or no one’s ever told you before…

It’s okay not to be okay.

One of the biggest challenges I see people face is this story that there’s something wrong with them if they’re not happy or if they haven’t found there purpose in life or if they keep making decisions that keep leading them to places they don’t want to be.

You’re not broken; you’re just bumping up against the parts of yourself that are there to remind you of what you truly are.

And even if you feel broken, that’s okay too.

Give yourself permission to feel how you feel without labeling those feelings as “good” or “bad.

They key here is that all of these things you may not like to look at are just as much a part of you as everything else.

The paradox is that the more we try to fight our shadow, the more we perpetuate this illusion that we can somehow find wholeness by only looking at the parts of ourselves we like while trying to hide all the others.

Who wins when you fight yourself

Adding darkness to darkness only brings more darkness.

And there’s nothing wrong with darkness! It’s the necessary contrast that allows us to see the light.

And light is the only thing darkness can’t touch.

That light is your awareness. That light is your love.

Give those parts of yourself that you like to keep in the darkness some love and watch what happens. Watch what happens when you learn how to forgive yourself instead of constantly trying to fight yourself.

I share this with you because this was a major turning point in my life. I had to learn how to embrace, forgive, and love my shadow because fighting became so exhausting to the point where I didn’t know if I could do it any longer…

But when I decided to accept my shadow as a necessary part of me I finally started to find wholeness and purpose and nothing was ever the same again.

I hope this helps.

Talk soon,


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