Why Most People Quit Before They Even Get Started

Most people are smart enough to know that you can't expect to go to the gym once and be fit for a lifetime.

Most people are even smart enough to know that if the program you've been following isn't working anymore you should try something different -- and not just completely give up.

So why would this common sense be any different in other area of our life?

You don't start a business and automatically make a million dollars.

You don't eat one healthy meal and reverse years of poor nutrition.

You don't go on one date and have a fulfilling relationship for the rest of your life.

Just like training in the gym -- it takes hundreds of reps to start seeing results and thousands of reps to create lasting change. And even after you've gotten the results you want, you have to keep doing the reps to maintain it.

This is true for any endeavor.

But why do we succeed at some and fail at others?

If you pay attention, the things that you stick with and see results from are things that you've committed to for a long period of time. And the reason you've been able to commit and put the reps in is because you fell in love with the process.

When you fall in love with the process you fall in love with doing the thing simply for the sake of doing the thing, without getting overly attached to the end result.

The paradox is that when you learn how to love the process and not get too attached to the outcome, you actually get more and better results.

This is because when things get tough (as they always do), instead of making excuses and giving up, you get creative and resourceful and find new ways of doing things -- because you love to do the thing.

This is why it's so important to find what you're passionate about and do that thing. Or, at the very least, change your story about the thing you're doing to one that allows you to find meaning and purpose in the process.

Successful people aren't lucky, they're just willing to keep trying until they get lucky (and get the result that they want).

Talk soon,

Nathan

How Would Your Life Change if You Finally Knew the Answer?

If I had to identify one skill that's changed my life, it would be the ability to ask better questions.

The answers to all questions are implicit in the way the question is asked.

In my experience, the way to ask better questions is to simply keep asking them without making assumptions about what you already believe to be true.

In other words, remain curious about everything -- ESPECIALLY the things you take for granted as "fact."

As Mark Twain said, "it's not what you don't know that gets you in trouble, it's what you know for sure that just ain't so."

As an example, here's a line of questioning I might take myself through as a thought experiment:

What should I eat today?

What does my body need to function properly?

How do I know if my body is functioning properly?

What does in mean to be in balance?

Is food the only thing that affects this balance?

Do my thoughts and emotions change what foods I might need to be in balance?

What are thoughts and emotions?

Are my thoughts fundamentally different than food?

Are both thoughts and food just energy and information?

Is everything just energy and information?

Is my food only as good as the energy and information it interacts with?

Where is my food coming from?

Is the energy and information my body-mind receives from the food only as good as the energy and information that food interacts with as it is grown/produced?

What is "good" energy and information and how do I maximize it?

Food is grown in the soil, so how do you optimize the energy and information in the soil to optimize the energy and information in the food?

I'll stop there, but you can see how this process works.

My challenge for you is to start asking more questions.

And if you have any questions that you'd like some help in answering, I'd love to work through them with you. Or at the very least help you ask better questions that might lead to better answers.

If you want your questions answered, I'm going Live on Instagram this Thursday at 9:30AM EST for a Q&A.

You can either post your question(s) as a comment on IG here, or reply directly to this email.

One thing I've learned is that if one person has a question and is brave enough to ask it, it's highly likely that at least 10 other people are wondering the same thing. So you'd not only be helping yourself, but potentially many others as well.

I look forward to your questions and serving you as best as I can.

Talk soon,

Nathan

How to Get "Unstuck" (My #1 Solution)

So you're not exactly where you want to be in life...

And that's OK.

I want you to realize that where you're at right now is exactly where you're supposed to be.

You see, whether you realize it or not, you've drawn your current circumstances into your life because they're exactly what is needed to help you grow and realize your full potential.

If it wasn't for the challenges and pain in our lives, most of us wouldn't have a good enough reason to change and become more aligned with our true selves.

In fact, it's my belief that the sole reason we have this human experience is to keep bumping up against things outside of us that seem separate from us to ultimately realize that we were bumping up against ourselves the whole time because there is no separation.

Through this awakening and expansion of consciousness, our capacity to create the life we want grows because we align ourselves to the truth and harmony of ourselves instead of constantly trying to will and force our way through life.

So what's my solution to getting unstuck if you feel like you're stuck in the same old ruts of life?

It's simple:

Take massive action towards the thing you want most.

Most of us are so afraid of making the wrong move that we make no move at all. And we get trapped in the fear of failure and unworthiness that gets covered up by the excuse of needing to be perfect in order to move towards perfection.

But even the wrong move is still better than no move at all because a step in the wrong direction at least eliminates one possibility and gets you one step closer to making the right move.

And let me tell you a little secret: nobody makes the right moves 100% of the time. Or even 50% for that matter.

Navigating successfully through life is all about course correction, not course perfection.

Make a move. Learn from that move. Correct course if needed. Make another move.

Whatever you do, just keep moving (even if your move is to choose to make no move).

How do you get unstuck?

The answer is in the question.

Take action. Make a move. Any move.

And I'll give you one last hint:

Usually the best move to make is the one you're most afraid of -- the one deep down you know will have the biggest impact, but the one you tell yourself you "can't" make for x-y-z excuses.

"If you can't, you must."

One more time for the people in back:

MAKE A MOVE. ANY MOVE.

Talk soon,

Nathan

P.S. You don't have to do this alone. There's always help if you're willing to ask for it and receive it. I've had to learn this the hard way by trying to do everything by myself and getting frustrated and overwhelmed when I felt like I kept putting myself in the situations over and over again. Once I finally broke down and asked for help I realized it was right there all along in so many different ways. When you're ready, I'm here to help you in anyway I can because I know what it's like to need help but not know where to turn. I don't claim to have all the answers, but I can at least show you what I know and teach you how to ask the right questions. Schedule a call with me and let's chat. I'd love to understand you better so I can be of service. What if asking for help was the first move you made that changed the course of the rest of your life?