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I finally found happiness when I decided to stop looking for it.


I know what it's like to be at the bottom of barrel wondering if it's even worth suffering through another day. I know the feeling when it seems like everything that could go wrong does go wrong. I know the pain of giving your all to something only to come up short and watch all your hard work come crumbling down.


I also know what it's like to go through that same pain with a happy heart and a deep sense of purpose and fulfillment. I know how it feels to wake feeling ecstatic for no other reason than to just be alive. I know the joy that comes with sharing that love and freedom with others.


The different between these two states can be summed up in one word:


S U R R E N D E R


A simple concept and tricky to put into practice.


If you want lasting happiness in your life that doesn't disappear when life gets challenging you have to learn how to let go of all your expectations and preconceived notions of how things ought to be.


Let what is be what is.


It's a balance between doing and non-doing. Effortless effort.


This is the middle way that provides the presence to remain in a state of equanimity regardless of what chaos might be swirling around you.


From this space you are able to move with clarity and tap into your creative potential to create a life of abundance for yourself and others.


Think of how attracted you are to people that just seem to have a certain grace and a love for life about them.


And even though this is something that seems so simple to do, it's taken me years of practice to make that shift and I must continually practice to maintain in.


I used to not feel comfortable sharing this information because I didn't feel like I was qualified to do so. But the more athletes and clients I teach these practices to, the more I see how life-changing it can really be.


So now I want to give you my best stuff for FREE.


If you haven't already, go and sign up for the webinar I'm going to be hosting via Zoom this Thursday (11/17) at 7PM EST:


Hacking Happiness: From "Just Okay" To "Better Than Ever"


Don’t wait and don’t miss out.


Your happiness depends on it.


Talk soon,

Nathan

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Just in case you forgot or no one’s ever told you before…


It’s okay not to be okay.


One of the biggest challenges I see people face is this story that there’s something wrong with them if they’re not happy or if they haven’t found there purpose in life or if they keep making decisions that keep leading them to places they don’t want to be.


You’re not broken; you’re just bumping up against the parts of yourself that are there to remind you of what you truly are.


And even if you feel broken, that’s okay too.


Give yourself permission to feel how you feel without labeling those feelings as “good” or “bad.


They key here is that all of these things you may not like to look at are just as much a part of you as everything else.


The paradox is that the more we try to fight our shadow, the more we perpetuate this illusion that we can somehow find wholeness by only looking at the parts of ourselves we like while trying to hide all the others.


Who wins when you fight yourself


Adding darkness to darkness only brings more darkness.


And there’s nothing wrong with darkness! It’s the necessary contrast that allows us to see the light.


And light is the only thing darkness can’t touch.


That light is your awareness. That light is your love.


Give those parts of yourself that you like to keep in the darkness some love and watch what happens. Watch what happens when you learn how to forgive yourself instead of constantly trying to fight yourself.


I share this with you because this was a major turning point in my life. I had to learn how to embrace, forgive, and love my shadow because fighting became so exhausting to the point where I didn’t know if I could do it any longer…


But when I decided to accept my shadow as a necessary part of me I finally started to find wholeness and purpose and nothing was ever the same again.


I hope this helps.


Talk soon,

Nathan

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Have you ever wondered how some of the most "successful" people can also be the most miserable and how the "poorest" people can be the happiest?


This clearly shows that success does not equal happiness like many of us have been conditioned to believe.


In the wise words of Maxwell Maltz,


"Success is getting what you want, happiness is wanting what you get."


So what's the difference? How do you find lasting happiness in your life?


Well, the first secret is that happiness isn't something that you find. It's something that you create.


Through my studies and my continuous practice and observation in my own life, I've found that happiness can be boiled down into one key element.


And the beautiful thing is that this element is something we have complete control over at all times.


It's our awareness of what we choose to focus on.


Our brains are hardwired for survival after millions of years of evolution. Therefore, it's very ingrained in us to focus on the negative instead of the positive -- to focus on what might kill us rather than what might lead us to a life of joy, love, and abundance.


Our minds naturally tend to shift to what we might lose, have less of, or might never get. It's no wonder that even the most successful people can still be miserable.


So the trick is to learn how to shift your focus from fear to appreciation; from anger to gratitude; from loss to love.


And the way to do this is as simple as making a choice to see the light instead of dwelling in the darkness. Both are always present because one cannot exist without the other.


As Tony Robbins says,


"What's wrong is always available... but so is what's right."


So it really doesn't matter what life throws at you, you always have a choice in how you allow your circumstances to affect your level of happiness.


All that's required is a shift of focus.


One of the practices I've learned is to make a conscious choice to be unconditionally happy. The way I do this is by becoming aware of my own awareness. There's a part of you that is deeper than you circumstances; deeper than your senses; deeper than your physical body. The more you learn how to identify with that part of yourself, the more you realize that there is a part of you than can never be disturbed by what's on around you -- just like there's the quiet center of every tornado; and just like the water gets calmer the deeper you dive, regardless of how much chaos is on the service.


Another practice is to simply find something to be grateful for when you find yourself getting caught in your emotions. Fear and gratitude cannot exist at the same time.


This isn't to say that you shouldn't feel your emotions. On the contrary, through these practices you'll be able to have an even richer emotional life because you'll feel safe enough to feel your feelings without becoming your feelings because you will have an anchor that is unshakeable.


Talk soon,

Nathan

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